Saturday, July 20, 2013

Career vs Fulltime housewife

gambar typical bulan Ramadhan ..:p

Ramadhan will always be my favorite month. So, this Ramadhan, again, i celebrate in UK with husband.  Fasting during summer time is not hard but still challenging. Serious. Buka puasa pukul 9.20 malam and habis sahur pukul 2.30pagi. Phew. Alhamdulillah, i still manage to fast. I'm quite busy recently, yes, super duper busy. Apa-apa pun, may Allah ease everything. Alhamdulillah, ada husband yang teman berpuasa, berbuka, tarawikh berjemaah etc etc. If not, lonely habis la kat UK nih dan mungkin akan terbang ke Malaysia. hehe.

9 Ogos ni genap 25 tahun, phew, terasa tua la pulak. Haisy haisy. Age is just a number..:p.. Tapi tetap risau. haha. Risau sebab memikirkan what i had achieved sepanjang 25 tahun nih. Antara big achievement, bab kahwin dah settle and dah pergi sambung PhD. Itu jer, yes itu jer. Just typical achievement. Kalau dapat jadi billionaire ker best jugak. I start thinking about life goal dengan lebih serius. Goal and dream tu set lama, but putting it into action tu still on the way. Saya rasa masa muda-muda ni lah mesti work hard, cuba itu ini, travel satu sini. If not, dah tua nanti, orang sibuk main dengan cucu, beribadah etc, kita kena kerja kuat to survive. Sementara muda nih, masih kuat, bekerjalah betul-betul. Get as much as you can. Serious. Wah, gaya cakap macam orang tua pulak.

Bila cakap pasal achievement, for sure berkait rapat dengan pengorbanan. Kalau nak achieve something, for sure we need to sacrifice something. For now, I dont see myself as a full-time housewife, i really want to be good in my career and family life. I think emak and ayah are happier if i have a decent career. Whatever decision eg profession that you chose, you need to be fair to yourself and others. Hidup ni bukan untuk kita seorang but for others too. But itulah, masing-masing kena berkorban. Emak kene 'lepaskan' saya terbang jauh. Husband pun kena berkorban, he cannot expect saya duduk rumah all the time. Doing PhD is 3years-never-ending-story..selagi tak submit thesis, selagi tu kerja tetap ada. So, time management penting. I'm not sure about others, but i used to be more focus and my multitasks skill better after i get married. 

Setiap orang berbeza, you know your own limitation. Something you need to consider before getting married is, about career. I heard a few cases, the couple divorces sebab husband suruh duduk rumah and tak kasi kerja, but husband tak mampu. Love only isnt enough. Chewah Raihan. Over sangat nih! Haha! But kalau husband happy and kita happy to be a housewife, then ok lah kan? emak saya fulltime housewife, she is too busy, kerja non stop dari pagi sampai malam. Tapi tapi, kalau wife nak jadi fulltime housewife, but husband tak mampu, so you have no choiceeee man..you need to work hard..:p

 Sama ada dari segi wang ringgit, masa, tenaga or orang sekeliling kita kena berkorban. Sekarang ni, saya belum ada anak lagi and sedang buat PhD, i used to dream high, work hard but is still manage to have time with husband, join society club, run side business and sometimes hang out dengan kawan-kawan. I think husband feel the same way. He's quite busy with his master programme , run side business, hang out with friends etc etc. Life good. We really enjoy our life. Itulah, as long as you and others happy. So, that's fine.

Itulah dilema wanita yang akan menganjak usia 25 tahun. I got counfused with the terms 'budak perempuan' and 'wanita'. Haisy. Baiklah, 'budak perempuan' ni nak pergi masak special untuk berbuka puasa before husband away for business purpose selama tiga hari. 


Raihan Musa
Oxford, England

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